My New Buddy Sargassosea, A Doodette Extreme

It has been a while since I've felt compelled to take a critic apart in their own special blog entry. Well, once in a while someone expressly begs for it. So, here you go.

In response to my comments on a blog entry at "Scum-o-rama", my latest fan Sargassosea, attempts to "counsel" me on rape and gender, but ends up revealing her own hatred instead.

I’m a woman who can discuss rape in a serious manner, James and it’s a terrible thing to be raped, isn’t it?

Why yes Sargassossea, it is a terrible thing. We are in complete agreement here. By the way, I know quite a few women who can discuss rape in a serious manner.

But what I’m serious about is this: that I am sick and fucking tired of MEN bemoaning rape (especially on a radical feminist blog, ffs) when MEN are the perpetrators of rape.

Umm, no. SOME men are perpetrators of rape, just like SOME women. By the way, the moderator of that particular feminist blog has the comments on moderation and chose of her own free will to allow me to leave a comment when she could just have easily pressed delete. If you have an issue with that, perhaps you need to talk to her.

As women we do not even have to go to prison first to be raped, it happens in our own homes on a DAILY BASIS and often starts when we are still little girls. Yeah, we’re so "privileged" that we get to be *free* while we’re being raped.

Yeah, like the 1 in 6 men who will be sexually victimized in their lifetimes as well, many as little boys abused by their own mothers. The vast majority of men subjected to sexual violence are victimized OUTSIDE of prison, but nice attempt at promoting a rape myth about male survivors. I wondered how long it would take until the Oppression Olympics began again. Kind of ugly, but, umm, okay.

Frankly I don’t give a political crap about men who are being raped in prison because the only reason they’re being raped in the first place is because there are no convenient FEMALE fuck holes available. Jesus.

Victim-blaming much? I care about ALL people regardless of gender regardless of their social status, but I guess that makes me a bad person.

James, I’d advise you to take your *progressive feminist male* schtick to Feministing; they’re rather fond of virtually fellating doods like you over there. But you already knew that didn’t you?

I'm not much of a "progressive feminist male", more like a civil liberties and human rights activist who cares about all humans, rather than one who promotes hatred and uses generalizing slurs. Not sure what "doods" are but maybe a doctor can look at it for me?

She got her say and "put me in my place" on a "radical feminist blog" for making the mistake of caring about all survivors of rape and sexual abuse. Well, I guess that congratulations are in order on alienating a potential ally. Good on you. So, now I've responded and done so on an internationally syndicated weblog (part of the LexisNexis archive) that will make all those pretty words a permanent monument to How Not To Be A Compassionate Person.

Of course, she also defends her own ugly racism and privilege here. I see a trend developing. After nearly 20 years of interracial marriage, personal and professional attacks and death threats from white supremacists and hate mongerers, I've come to expect batshit crazy in all forms - even from other people in interracial relationships themselves.

My new buddy, doodette, and bestie did not disappoint. Of course, whether she is actually capable of discussing survivorhood in a serious manner is still up for debate given the utter lack of serious, mature commentary reflected in her response to me. Instead of anything resembling seriousness and compassion for fellow rape survivors, I see anger, victim-blaming and generalizations. Of course, racism and hatred go together, so exactly why am I surprised?

I guess I just expect better of people. Stupid me.

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